DIY Mediumship

DIY Mediumship is reproduced with permission from the book "Conversations with Tom," in which psychic medium Walda Woods relays guidance from Tom, her deceased husband, on how you can become a psychic medium yourself and talk to your departed loved ones:

We have talked about the many ways spirit communicates with you—dreams, visions, signs, and so on. Anything beyond that, such as connecting on a higher level of consciousness, has traditionally been reserved for the so-called “gifted” psychic medium. My dear readers, you are all gifted psychic mediums! You need only redevelop this skill, for it has been lying dormant since the day you started receiving societal programming to the contrary! Only three things are necessary to do this work: Desire, faith and patience. If you have all three, you will make contact on a most profound level. My wife has worked with many that are anxious to make the connection but few hold all three of these components. So let’s talk about each one. First, let’s look at desire. How much do you really want to do this? Spirit communication is not a game or a parlor trick, and you must be totally dedicated to it once you begin. Desire comes from a place in the heart and brings with it the love needed to cross the bridge to our world.

Your intentions are equally as important. If you’re looking to spend most of your waking hours connecting with your loved one, the experience will not be productive. You need balance. It’s possible to have regular contact with the other side while remaining grounded and centered in your own world. Moderation is the key.

If you have not yet accepted who you are in relation to the loss of your loved one, you’re not ready to do this. You must have a clear understanding concerning your purpose here. If you still view death as frightening and confusing, you’re not ready. As I said before, this is not a parlor game like the Ouija Board, and should be approached only with the highest and best intention for you and those on the other side.

However, if you want to be close to our world and you understand what death really is, you are indeed ready to reconnect with your loved one, to gain wisdom and most importantly, to pass this enlightenment on to others.

Next, how is your faith these days? Have you mastered what faith really means? Are you absolutely convinced that you will make contact? If you answered no, again, you’re not ready. Fear is an obstacle to spirit communication, for fear is the absence of faith. If you’re afraid of this process in any way, you’re not ready. But if you really know what faith means, and have an unwavering belief that you will make contact, then you are ready.

The last component is patience. Wanting things to happen right away is a natural human trait because of the physical plane anxiety about never having enough time. Try to let go of the time issue, for it’s not important over here. Understand that it may not happen right away. While you are probably ready to work toward this new awareness, practice is involved. Consistency is more important than intensity. As with learning any new skill, the more you practice, the faster you will become proficient. Intensity will come when you have mastered the process of connecting.

Here are some points that are necessary in understanding the process of spirit communication. We know that the brain and the mind are not the same. And we know that the brain does not survive death as does the consciousness of the mind. Your mind is extraordinary. It is both a transmitter and receiver. It is uniquely powerful and yet you tap only a fraction of its resources in daily life. But it is through the mind that you will cross the bridge from the physical world to the world of spirit. By raising the frequency of your consciousness through total relaxation of the body, meditation will gently guide you to the dimension where your loved one now lives.

If you do not already regularly practice meditation, your first seven days would best be spent learning to meditate, for it is with this knowledge that you will begin to see how the inner mind works. You will meet your Higher Self and discover the beauty and wisdom of the spiritual realms. Begin with fifteen minutes a day, and over time, the duration will naturally increase at its own pace. For now, concentrate on being consistent. You will be tempted to skip over this important first step but I urge you not to. If you jump ahead into trying to make contact without building the proper foundation, you will be discouraged with your results and will probably never attempt it again.

After you have completed your seven days of meditation practice, you are ready to begin one of the most exciting experiences of your life. Know that some sessions will be more intense than others, and it is important to approach this without expectation of outcome. Know that it will happen—that you will indeed make contact. But don’t worry about the “when” or “how.” Just let everything flow. Trust your spirit to guide you. Relax and enjoy the ride.

At some point, the question will arise, “Am I really in contact? Is this really spirit communication or just me talking to me? Am I really capable of such an awesome feat?”

When this happens, thank your ego for its healthy skepticism and let it go so that you can relax back into the process. When you truly believe that you can make contact, you will. And after a while, you will indeed know that you are truly connecting with your loved one.

How contact comes differs for different people. Some will see, others will hear, yet others will just know, as thoughts are dropped in the mind. So avoid any preformed expectations about how contact will come. Like a baby learning to see, initially things may be fuzzy, but over time, you will notice improvements in the clarity of what you see, hear, think or feel.

Imagination is the tool for making contact. For most of your life, you have been programmed to think that imagination means make-believe. It does not. When you “image” something in your mind, you are using imagination. The imagination is where all great ideas start and is the vehicle for your thoughts. Thoughts are energy and energy is very real. So detach from the make-believe aspect and let’s move on.

Until you become comfortable with raising your frequency, your loved one will need to lower his or hers to make contact. This is not the most pleasant experience for us here because we are so used to our new “lightness.” But we are patient because we see your dedication and know that you are still learning. I will tell you that your loved ones are have much to share and talk about, and they realize how much it will mean to you to be able to “feel” them once again.

Everyone I talk to here agrees that it’s best to set aside a designated time every day to make contact. While linear time has no significance to us, it provides both dimensions with a structure of sorts, and in the beginning, until there is a total “blending” of consciousness, such a structure helps strengthen the contact.

Set aside a time of day when you will not be interrupted. You deserve this sacred time and you will soon find yourself looking forward to it. Turn off the phone and tell everyone you are going to be relaxing for the next fifteen minutes. Light some candles, preferably white. Burn incense or have scented flowers in the room. If you wish, play soft music or an environmental track of the sounds of nature such as a babbling brook or ocean waves.Because the mind/body connection is so strong, how you feel physically will directly affect your results. If you’re not feeling well, wait until whatever it is has passed. If you’re “overcharged” with negative energy, take time to let go of all the tension, stress and anxiety. Stand up and “shake” it all off before you begin.

Next, settle comfortably into your favorite meditative position. Close your eyes and toss all negative thoughts out into the universe to be transformed into positive, loving energy. Say your prayer for protection.

When you’re relaxed, focus on your heart chakra, the energy center in your chest, and your connection to divine love. Connection with your loved one will occur through the heart chakra, so breathe directly into it, and imagine beautiful white light filling up your chest area. Feel the warmth from this light open you to an awareness of peace. Continue breathing the white light into your chest area, feeling it bring you closer to your loved one.

Now, form a mental picture of your loved one in your mind’s eye. Take your time and wait until you see them as clearly as possible. Look into their eyes and feel their presence. You will see them smile and wave “hello” and it is then that you will know that they are really with you. You have called to them and they have come.

Now, stay focused on your breathing and imagine the white light turning to a soft pink, the highest energy of love. Send this pink light out to your loved one, gently directing it toward their heart center. Feel its intensity build as the pink cord connects your heart centers in a most profound and penetrating way. Feel the love and peace that this connection brings and know that it’s real. You have made contact.

Relax and enjoy each other’s company. Take this time to share and to love once again. Pay attention to what’s happening. Along with this telepathic exchange, you may also become aware of fragrant aromas and heavenly music. Don’t try to analyze or doubt what takes place. Just enjoy it and let it flow from the universe. Know that you now have this new awareness of the spiritual realms and can return at any time.

When you’re ready to say goodbye, tell your loved one when you propose to hold your next meeting. Watch as he or she smiles and waves “goodbye.” Gently open your eyes. Take a deep breath and come back into the room. Feel your energy returning, feeling healthier and more joyful than ever before.

"DIY Mediumship" is excerpted from "Death Without Fear" by Tony Stubbs